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Have Fun and Laugh More ! - Reflection of 10 years Wedding Anniversary

Life without laugh is like food without salt. We love to have fun and laugh more. Teasing our partner, creating jokes even though sometimes it's dirty jokes, really spicing up our marriage life. And our kids also follow suits, they love to make a joke and tease each other. Sometimes watching them laughing out loud is priceless moment for us as parents.

Communication - Reflection of 10 years Wedding Anniversary

Communication is the blood and water in the relationship. Without proper communication, there always be misunderstanding, conflict, cold war and in severe case end up with separation. As we are adopting open and honest communication, we also experience challenges in communication either with our partner or the kids. Both of us are reserved  persons and peace lovers, we prefer to avoid conflict instead of facing it. Well, it can be good and bad. The good thing is we are not so sensitive over trivial matter but the bad thing is we have tendency to keep it in our heart and it can be a time bomb that can burst anytime. When we are in conflict or disagreement, we like to talk about it privately and not in front of the kids. We prefer to settle it at night time after the kids are asleep. As communication with the kids, we always have open and democratic communication with them. With younger ones, since their understanding are not matured yet, we often pre-empt and dire

Celebrating Diversity in Unity - Reflection of 10 Years Wedding Anniversary -

God's handmade is really magnificent. From only two persons - man and woman, He can multiply to many persons with different characters, talents, physical appearances and personalities. I would rather say, it's very complex creation and I believe that no one can create this beautiful creature other than God. We were grateful that God has blessed and entrusted us with three boys, each of them has different personalities, characters, talents.  Our first son has extrovert character, talkative, full of confidence, moody and only interested in learning something that he likes. Once he loves it, he is super genius and learning very fast until we are so amazed. Our second one is the opposite of the first one. He's more introvert, observer, perseverance, endurance, stubborn and loves to learn everything. He is not easily giving up if he is unable to complete the tasks. Our third one is the mixture of the first and second one. He's full of energy, extrovert, ta

Renewing Marriage Covenant - Reflection of 10 years Wedding Anniversary -

When we said “I do” 10 years ago, it meant that we needed to consummate our marriage as what God has instructed us.  " Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife and the shall become one flesh " "Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate " After wedding day until before the kids arrive, it's usually a honeymoon period for most couples. But after the kid arrives, the world suddenly turns upside down. Taking care the kids are really taking out the energy and pushing the patience to the limits. Most of the couple will give up their sex life after having the kids because they have no more energy to please each other. It also happened to us, during first year after our wedding day, it's a honeymoon period where we had only each other. We could please our partner day and night but after the kids arrived especially for the first year of his life, it did change our sex life. But we always re

Treasure every moment - Reflection of 10 years Wedding Anniversary

Oh I love this part very much, treasure every moment. I love documenting events either small or big. They are priceless treasures that we are never able to gain back once they are gone. In today's fast changing world, every day we are racing with time. Day by day, month by month, year by year pass very quickly. With this treasure box full of memories, it gave us a pause to look back, reflect, give thanks for whatever good and make better for whatever need to be changed. I love to write a blog about myself, our relationship, our love story, the pregnancy journey, the kids as well as documenting those precious moments through photo books. During special moments like birthday, anniversary, we would look at it again and see how God has done amazing things in our life that quite often we took it for granted. Sometimes looking at our children's first smile, first step pictures or when they were very fluffy during the first few months of their life really bring smile to our l

Love our partner first before the kids - Reflection of 10 years Wedding Anniversary

God loves and trusts us so much that He entrusted us with three beautiful boys. On the contrary with the common beliefs that once the kids arrive, there is no more room for lovey dovey couple, we believe that there's a precious thing that we could give to our children as a legacy which is the gift of love. Love itself is not just an object but also a verb. We need to walk the talk because how the kids perceive the way we love, they will also duplicate and apply it in their life. Of course there are challenges especially when the kids are still very young. I remembered when our first son was born, there is no room for couple time. The kid occupied most of our time, energy and attention until we were unable to pay attention to our partner. When he's 18 months old, we decided to take time off and went to honeymoon. It was so refreshing that we could pay full attention to our partner again. Our love tanks suddenly full again. From that moment, we realised that couple time

Put God first above all -Reflection of 10 years Wedding Anniversary

We were very grateful that God has written our love story far away before we met each other. I remembered we met for the first time during Malam Cinta, it's prayer meeting hosted by Amoredio and both of us were serving God by playing music. From that moment, we always serves Him together not only in the community but also in our family. We realised that without Him, we were like withered plants. So each of us always has quiet and private time with God to gain power, energy and strength and every night we have thanksgiving family prayer before we end the day. This has been our powerful weapon to keep our marriage life pure, strong and sparkling. When we experienced turbulence and storms, we came back to the Creator of life. When we finally were able to pass those challenges, we also came back to give thanks to Him When we were in disagreement, we also pray and ask His wisdom to help us solving the conflicts When we were in need of money, we also ask Him and trust in His pr

Our Marriage Foundation -Reflection of 10 Years Wedding Anniversary

This bible verse was the gospel reading of our wedding day. This verse is uncommon to be chosen during the wedding mass however we chose this verse because it's so close with our life, what we have gone through before we met each other and also what we have experienced the ups and downs during our courtship days before we said yes to each other. We, ourselves were the living testimony on how God has done great things in our life. Without Him, we were nothing and would not be able to achieve what we have now. Therefore we decided to use this verse during our wedding mass to constantly remind us that even in marriage life when we have each other, it's still not enough. We still need to hold into the main tree, the source of our life and love so that we could love, trust and treat each other as how God loves us. These two verses were a reading passage in our wedding mass. We chose those verses as a guidance for us how we should build our marriage life,

Post Wedding Anniversary Photoshoots

For our 10 years Wedding Anniversary, we decided to have photoshoots as a memorable gift for ourselves. We asked our dear friend Lovely By Aimee to be the photographer, stylist and videographer. The locations are in Sentosa, Haji Lane, Our Lady of Lourdes Church. I gave them my plan to create customised photo album with some quotes and bible verses added that close to us and they helped out with the shoots style and photo editing. So here it is front cover back cover

Semarang Culinary and the tourist spots ( 3 - 10 June 2018

After hubby came back to Singapore, I and the kids spent the week exploring Semarang and culinary visit. Thanks God the kids loved the food and their tummy could adjust well with street food. We visited my childhood favourite food which most of them were street food. Here's some delicious food from Semarang Waroeng Semawis sate sapi pak kempleng Beehoon jowo timbul nasi ayam bu harni tahu gimbal pak ali lekker paimo bakmie kota kembang steak bentuman toko oen huzarensla oen's symphony and tutty frutti bubur ayam, nasi goreng, lontong cap gomeh, bakwan jagung We also visited kota lama, pasar gang baru, kampung pelangi, cathedral