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Our Role Models in Marriage

Like what our friend ever said, in marriage life we need a role model that is close to us.
We cannot have role model that's unreachable and untouchable so after pondering, it came to my mind that our role model in marriage are our parents.

Yesterday was my parent's 38th anniversary and I did some reflection and pondering about what they have done during past 38 years.


I came not from rich family, during my childhood and teens life, financial has been  the main struggle.
My dad hold no proper job and my mom is a stay at home mom.
However, from those challenges, I came to learn few things


1. God provides ! 
Even though our life is up and down, sometimes we face uncertainty and fear for tomorrow but God always provides and we survive until now


2. Be Faithful
My mom has 101 reason to leave my dad because of the insecurity that my dad offers.
However, she chose to stand by at my dad, yes they fight but they don't leave each other behind


3. Perseverance
When the storms and uncertainty came, both of them stay together and persevere.
We save money during rainy days and when rainy days come, we use our saving to cover us.


4. Family Over Money
My mom has a choice to work to support the family but despite uncertainty and insecurity, she chose to be a stay at home mom. She passed the positive moral value to the children and from their action without their saying I could see that Family is more important than Money


5. Unending Prayer
My mom was a devout prayer wife even though she has her own weaknesses.
She never stop pray for my dad, children and now she pray for those souls who are dying.



6. Be Generous and Let it Go
I learn from my dad how to have a generous heart and let things go.
My dad loves to spend money for family and other people despite unsteady income that he has.
And he never bears grudges. He's very simple minded and let the things go.
That's why despite his weaknesses, I learn from him to detach myself from things that make me miserable.


7. Be Responsible
Last but not least,  another learning lesson from my dad about being a Responsible Fellow.
Even though he offers us financial insecurity, he always puts our needs first.
He may not be a very well educated person, but he knows how to be a responsible father and husband.
He's a great father for me.


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