There's a joke / meme below
It leads me to the thinking whether women are always right.
Few weeks ago, I and my hubby had an argument. He just started a new job few months ago and like others, he's been adapting and adjusting and just as he was settling down, the senior manager who hired him resigned and it gave a big blow to him because his team was pretty small, only 3 of them and with his manager leaving soon meaning that there's a higher chance that his division will be closed.
Well, we have been praying before he accepted this job and we had peace when he took this job but suddenly there's unexpected storm and he started to doubt whether we had made right choice.
At first, when I received the news, I was puzzled too, because I have been encouraging him to move on to this new job. But when I offered this through prayer, I had a peace and affirmation that we made the right decision.
Instead of looking the negative side, I was able to see the positive side. I told him that it's okay, you can do it, with no direct manager involved, you can do whatever you want like this is your own business. Perhaps this gives you an opportunity to take you to higher level of skills and knowledge.
He started to tell me the obstacles and challenges because his division has no support from higher management, no stock, no alliance etc.
I told him, it's okay, you could start it over, make alliance with supplier, looking for the project and start relationship with end users etc but again he argued that it's not as easy as what I think.
In the end, he just kept quite and didn't want to talk about it again because he felt that I didn't understand him and put high expectation on him.
On the other hand, I was thinking if I was doing anything wrong, because what I meant is to encourage him to look at positive side and change his mindset from the challenges to opportunities.
But it didn't work out and in the end, it became an argument.
Then, I just said a simple word to him "SORRY"
After that he told me his feeling that he felt I have changed and put high expectation on him to be strong all the time, and what he wanted was only simply acceptance if he's fail in the end.
And he also told me that he didn't need any solutions for his problem but only listening ear since he was more experienced in this industry than I am.
So I told him, ok fine, if that's what you want, I apologized and will keep my mouth shut and open my ears widely.
After we reconciled, and his mood has changed, I gave him some ideas and he accepted it.
The rest of the weeks, I just offered the prayer to God so that He can grant him strength, courage, joy, positive mind and energy, humility and wisdom.
Day by day, it gets better. And he told me that he didn't even understand why he's now more positive than before.
But I knew it where it comes from.
After this incident, when he wanted to give up, I just listened to him and never prompt him again, instead I offer it through prayer and let God give him a courage to face the storms and have faith.
Most of the time, it worked.
Few days ago, I was prompted by the story of Jesus's born. In the beginning, Angel told Mother Mary first the good news instead to Joseph. And in the end Joseph also was told with a dream about this good news.
It's just mirroring my life, sometimes God has prompted me first either to encourage him or to give him assurance but he may underestimate it because he thought that he's more experience and has knowledge about the real situation and he's the pilot of this family. Instead of telling him myself, I let God prompted him too.
And what Mother Mary did all the time was keep everything inside her heart but never stop praying to all surround her.
So is woman always right ?
It may be, because woman's intuitive is sharper and her feeling is more sensitive since she always uses her heart most of the time.
But the danger of it is when we always think that we are always right, we become self-righteous and self-centered and instead of submitting to husband, we act like the leader of the family.
It leads me to the thinking whether women are always right.
Few weeks ago, I and my hubby had an argument. He just started a new job few months ago and like others, he's been adapting and adjusting and just as he was settling down, the senior manager who hired him resigned and it gave a big blow to him because his team was pretty small, only 3 of them and with his manager leaving soon meaning that there's a higher chance that his division will be closed.
Well, we have been praying before he accepted this job and we had peace when he took this job but suddenly there's unexpected storm and he started to doubt whether we had made right choice.
At first, when I received the news, I was puzzled too, because I have been encouraging him to move on to this new job. But when I offered this through prayer, I had a peace and affirmation that we made the right decision.
Instead of looking the negative side, I was able to see the positive side. I told him that it's okay, you can do it, with no direct manager involved, you can do whatever you want like this is your own business. Perhaps this gives you an opportunity to take you to higher level of skills and knowledge.
He started to tell me the obstacles and challenges because his division has no support from higher management, no stock, no alliance etc.
I told him, it's okay, you could start it over, make alliance with supplier, looking for the project and start relationship with end users etc but again he argued that it's not as easy as what I think.
In the end, he just kept quite and didn't want to talk about it again because he felt that I didn't understand him and put high expectation on him.
On the other hand, I was thinking if I was doing anything wrong, because what I meant is to encourage him to look at positive side and change his mindset from the challenges to opportunities.
But it didn't work out and in the end, it became an argument.
Then, I just said a simple word to him "SORRY"
After that he told me his feeling that he felt I have changed and put high expectation on him to be strong all the time, and what he wanted was only simply acceptance if he's fail in the end.
And he also told me that he didn't need any solutions for his problem but only listening ear since he was more experienced in this industry than I am.
So I told him, ok fine, if that's what you want, I apologized and will keep my mouth shut and open my ears widely.
After we reconciled, and his mood has changed, I gave him some ideas and he accepted it.
The rest of the weeks, I just offered the prayer to God so that He can grant him strength, courage, joy, positive mind and energy, humility and wisdom.
Day by day, it gets better. And he told me that he didn't even understand why he's now more positive than before.
But I knew it where it comes from.
After this incident, when he wanted to give up, I just listened to him and never prompt him again, instead I offer it through prayer and let God give him a courage to face the storms and have faith.
Most of the time, it worked.
Few days ago, I was prompted by the story of Jesus's born. In the beginning, Angel told Mother Mary first the good news instead to Joseph. And in the end Joseph also was told with a dream about this good news.
It's just mirroring my life, sometimes God has prompted me first either to encourage him or to give him assurance but he may underestimate it because he thought that he's more experience and has knowledge about the real situation and he's the pilot of this family. Instead of telling him myself, I let God prompted him too.
And what Mother Mary did all the time was keep everything inside her heart but never stop praying to all surround her.
So is woman always right ?
It may be, because woman's intuitive is sharper and her feeling is more sensitive since she always uses her heart most of the time.
But the danger of it is when we always think that we are always right, we become self-righteous and self-centered and instead of submitting to husband, we act like the leader of the family.
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