I decided to write about the challenges in our marriage life. There's no happily ever after like fairy tales or perfect marriage portrayed like in the movie.
Eventhough we have a good marriage, we still face these challenges until today.
1. Shall or Shall Not Talk
In marriage life, communication is one of the common challenges that every couple experiences.
In our case when we feel that our partner doesn't do right or please us, we tend to keep it to ourselves instead of talking about it because either we want to avoid the conflict or create unnecessary argument.
We don't want our partner to look at us as a petty person for such trivial matters.
But these tendency to keep it to our selves become time bomb that will burst anytime when we couldn't take it anymore. In the end it will create never ending arguments and disagreement and both of us start to defend our position.
2. I expect you to be....
During our courtship, everything was beautiful. We didn't have any expectation towards each other and we would be able to accept our partner's weaknesses and flaws. But after marriage with the kids, we started rising our bar of expectations.
For eg, he expects me to be a patience wife who could teach our kids or tell them nicely if they are misbehaved. However, coming from the background that everything must be in the perfect order and fast paced environment, I grown up become an impatient person. I couldn't teach the kids or wait for them patiently. Patience is a virtue that I am lacking of.
On the other hand, I expect him to be a man who has desire to excel and hungry to learn more which in the end this expectation brings him more pressures and feels unloved.
It really wasn't easy especially when we grew up from different parenting style and background.
3. I know better than you
Both of us were graduated from top university and highly educated with certain principal and thinking set and sometimes it backfired.
We thought that we are the smartest and the righteous on the field that we have been doing therefore we always take defensive mode when our partner gives some suggestions or ideas.
For eg, I handle the kids most of the time and make me understand and know more about each kid's characters and when suddenly my hubby gives other suggestion or idea, I will brush it off since I feel that I know the best.
In the opposite, when my hubby shares about his problems in the office and I kinda give him suggestion or idea for solution, he kinda underestimates me because he thought that he knows better than me
It really takes a humble heart to listen to other partner's suggestion or idea.
Those are some challenges that we always face here and there and these make us more mature and wiser day by day.
There's no easy marriage life but it takes three hearts, husband - wife - God to make marriage life happen and stronger.
Eventhough we have a good marriage, we still face these challenges until today.
1. Shall or Shall Not Talk
In marriage life, communication is one of the common challenges that every couple experiences.
In our case when we feel that our partner doesn't do right or please us, we tend to keep it to ourselves instead of talking about it because either we want to avoid the conflict or create unnecessary argument.
We don't want our partner to look at us as a petty person for such trivial matters.
But these tendency to keep it to our selves become time bomb that will burst anytime when we couldn't take it anymore. In the end it will create never ending arguments and disagreement and both of us start to defend our position.
2. I expect you to be....
During our courtship, everything was beautiful. We didn't have any expectation towards each other and we would be able to accept our partner's weaknesses and flaws. But after marriage with the kids, we started rising our bar of expectations.
For eg, he expects me to be a patience wife who could teach our kids or tell them nicely if they are misbehaved. However, coming from the background that everything must be in the perfect order and fast paced environment, I grown up become an impatient person. I couldn't teach the kids or wait for them patiently. Patience is a virtue that I am lacking of.
On the other hand, I expect him to be a man who has desire to excel and hungry to learn more which in the end this expectation brings him more pressures and feels unloved.
It really wasn't easy especially when we grew up from different parenting style and background.
3. I know better than you
Both of us were graduated from top university and highly educated with certain principal and thinking set and sometimes it backfired.
We thought that we are the smartest and the righteous on the field that we have been doing therefore we always take defensive mode when our partner gives some suggestions or ideas.
For eg, I handle the kids most of the time and make me understand and know more about each kid's characters and when suddenly my hubby gives other suggestion or idea, I will brush it off since I feel that I know the best.
In the opposite, when my hubby shares about his problems in the office and I kinda give him suggestion or idea for solution, he kinda underestimates me because he thought that he knows better than me
It really takes a humble heart to listen to other partner's suggestion or idea.
Those are some challenges that we always face here and there and these make us more mature and wiser day by day.
There's no easy marriage life but it takes three hearts, husband - wife - God to make marriage life happen and stronger.
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