Last week I received a news about the artist couple who decided to end their marriage. Both are Christian Family and it looked very lovable family with pretty and cute daughter. They were like the idol of other family and couples. I didn't know them personally but after hearing the news, my heart was sinking. Most of people felt pity with their kid but I felt more pity for this couple.
I didn't know what caused them to end the marriage but I reckon either one or both are wounded ones. And either one or both really need help and support from each other.
Thus, this analogy came just in time when I did contemplation.
Husband - wife is like our body part - left and right.
After we receive the sacrament of matrimony, husband and wife become one body which is marriage life.
When we nurture our body, eating healthy diet, exercise regularly, our body is maintained to be healthy and strong. We can take more heavy loads and have good stamina to walk or even run for the final destination.
However if we don't really care to nurture and train our body, we will feel weak and in no times, sickness will come and and becomes the king of our body.
It works like marriage too, when we nurture our marriage by paying attention and care to each of us as the ultimate components for marriage life, our marriage is getting stronger as time goes by and we are able to take heavy responsibility, have stamina to walk to our final destination which is heaven.
However, if we don't care to nurture our marriage, in no times, we will feel that the marriage bond is getting weaker and weaker and it's very easy for negative thoughts and doubts to occupy our marriage life.
Like the body itself, there are times during our walk or training, one body part for eg right leg is hurt and wounded.
Thus, we may walk slower than the usual.
It may only one small part that hurts or wounded but the effect is felt by the whole body.
We feel annoyed and frustrated, don't we?
But do we chop this wounded part ?
As a normal human being, we won't do it. We will mend this wounded part, take care cautiously and gently so that it can be healed faster and we can continue the journey again.
It works the same like marriage.
When either husband or wife is wounded, he or she may do something that annoying and frustrating other partner. Perhaps this fellow looks selfish, no sympathy and empathy, never fulfil the other partner's love needs, abusive in words and actions or other negative things that we can name it.
He/she does that because they are hurt and wounded deep inside, mostly rooted from the childhood experience and they themselves may not realise it because it has been rooted deeply and the way they react is the result of those hurt.
Like a wounded body part, we should really pay more attention, care this wounded person with even greater love so that he/she can be healed and both can walk together again to go for the final destination.
Unfortunately, most people prefer to give up and chop it away with the hope that by doing so, they are happier and can walk even faster.
Sad to say, it may not be the way they expect.
When we choose to give up, we will walk in limb. It's crippling our life and slowing us down even more. There are many things that we need to use both right and left parts, but by chopping it away, we are not able to do it perfectly anymore. For eg taking care and nurturing children, we need both figures - dad and mom.
Undeniable, there are extreme situations in life, for eg during accident that the doctor need to amputate one leg for the good of the rest of the body. Sometimes God needs to take a husband or wife away too earlier for the reasons that we may not understand now but it's for the good of our life.
However, in the normal circumstances, God created left and right parts for a purpose to complement and support each other.
Similarly, God created husband and wife to complement and support each other and not to compete neither give up on each other.
If our partner is hurting us in words or actions so badly, it means that he/she needs our love so badly too.
We, as human, may not have the perfect love because we are too imperfect but by asking for God's grace relentlessly, He will grant us His love so that we may able to love our spouse as Christ loves us.
I didn't know what caused them to end the marriage but I reckon either one or both are wounded ones. And either one or both really need help and support from each other.
Thus, this analogy came just in time when I did contemplation.
Husband - wife is like our body part - left and right.
After we receive the sacrament of matrimony, husband and wife become one body which is marriage life.
When we nurture our body, eating healthy diet, exercise regularly, our body is maintained to be healthy and strong. We can take more heavy loads and have good stamina to walk or even run for the final destination.
However if we don't really care to nurture and train our body, we will feel weak and in no times, sickness will come and and becomes the king of our body.
It works like marriage too, when we nurture our marriage by paying attention and care to each of us as the ultimate components for marriage life, our marriage is getting stronger as time goes by and we are able to take heavy responsibility, have stamina to walk to our final destination which is heaven.
However, if we don't care to nurture our marriage, in no times, we will feel that the marriage bond is getting weaker and weaker and it's very easy for negative thoughts and doubts to occupy our marriage life.
Like the body itself, there are times during our walk or training, one body part for eg right leg is hurt and wounded.
Thus, we may walk slower than the usual.
It may only one small part that hurts or wounded but the effect is felt by the whole body.
We feel annoyed and frustrated, don't we?
But do we chop this wounded part ?
As a normal human being, we won't do it. We will mend this wounded part, take care cautiously and gently so that it can be healed faster and we can continue the journey again.
It works the same like marriage.
When either husband or wife is wounded, he or she may do something that annoying and frustrating other partner. Perhaps this fellow looks selfish, no sympathy and empathy, never fulfil the other partner's love needs, abusive in words and actions or other negative things that we can name it.
He/she does that because they are hurt and wounded deep inside, mostly rooted from the childhood experience and they themselves may not realise it because it has been rooted deeply and the way they react is the result of those hurt.
Like a wounded body part, we should really pay more attention, care this wounded person with even greater love so that he/she can be healed and both can walk together again to go for the final destination.
Unfortunately, most people prefer to give up and chop it away with the hope that by doing so, they are happier and can walk even faster.
Sad to say, it may not be the way they expect.
When we choose to give up, we will walk in limb. It's crippling our life and slowing us down even more. There are many things that we need to use both right and left parts, but by chopping it away, we are not able to do it perfectly anymore. For eg taking care and nurturing children, we need both figures - dad and mom.
Undeniable, there are extreme situations in life, for eg during accident that the doctor need to amputate one leg for the good of the rest of the body. Sometimes God needs to take a husband or wife away too earlier for the reasons that we may not understand now but it's for the good of our life.
However, in the normal circumstances, God created left and right parts for a purpose to complement and support each other.
Similarly, God created husband and wife to complement and support each other and not to compete neither give up on each other.
If our partner is hurting us in words or actions so badly, it means that he/she needs our love so badly too.
We, as human, may not have the perfect love because we are too imperfect but by asking for God's grace relentlessly, He will grant us His love so that we may able to love our spouse as Christ loves us.
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