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Turning differences into opportunities


God did a wonderful thing when He created man and woman so differently. The differences between man as male and woman as female were intended to usher in many special blessings (Genesis 1:28). Unfortunately, because of the fall, the blessings of the sexes became the battle between the sexes. The unique qualities with which God endowed each, now give rise to misunderstanding and conflict rather than completion and harmony.

When we started dating it was our differences that attracted us to one another. But not long after we got married and the honeymoon was over, we noticed that those same differences began to irritate us. That’s what usually happens. 

Before marriage, opposites attract. After marriage, opposites attack. Every couple eventually has to deal with the many ways they are different from each other. The problem is, many of us spend the duration of our marriages resisting or trying to change our spouses, rather than understanding and valuing the ways God created him or her differently.

Differences are often the crux of our marriage frustrations: different genders, different priorities, differing personalities and different ways of communicating. We are truly different from each other. If we don’t understand those differences and learn how to let our differences complement one another, they can pull us apart. Each of us needs to value the way God wired us,

In order to leverage our “differentness” and create teamwork in our marriage, we need to stop resisting our spouse’s differences and begin to celebrate them! We find joy in our relationship when we can truly say, “Thank you God for giving me a husband/wife who has strengths that make my life richer!”God made each one of us unique. A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when two imperfect people learn to enjoy their differences. But first, we have to understand how God has created us differently. Then we can step into our spouse’s world instead of staying isolated in our own.

When we make choices to live together in an understanding way, it is an investment that is sure to pay high relational dividends. 
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