God loves and trusts us so much that He entrusted us with three beautiful boys.
On the contrary with the common beliefs that once the kids arrive, there is no more room for lovey dovey couple, we believe that there's a precious thing that we could give to our children as a legacy which is the gift of love.
Love itself is not just an object but also a verb.
We need to walk the talk because how the kids perceive the way we love, they will also duplicate and apply it in their life.
Of course there are challenges especially when the kids are still very young. I remembered when our first son was born, there is no room for couple time.
The kid occupied most of our time, energy and attention until we were unable to pay attention to our partner. When he's 18 months old, we decided to take time off and went to honeymoon.
It was so refreshing that we could pay full attention to our partner again. Our love tanks suddenly full again.
From that moment, we realised that couple time is a need no longer merely a want. So the following year, we took time off to go overseas again leaving our son behind.
God seems pleasing and therefore blessing us with another child after we came back from overseas and again we were grounded for almost two years until we had an opportunity for another family vacation.
Unexpected good news came, I was so unprepared for the first trimester, but by the grace of God, we were able to walk those journey with joy.
When our youngest one was 14 months old, we decided to make a commitment for couple time.
By God's providence, my cousin and my sister were ready to help to mind the children while we were out for few hours.
So every month, we set a time for ourselves either watching movie, dining or exercising together without the kids.
And the good news is our kids are very understandable, they "give" us permission to go for a date.
On the contrary with the common beliefs that once the kids arrive, there is no more room for lovey dovey couple, we believe that there's a precious thing that we could give to our children as a legacy which is the gift of love.
Love itself is not just an object but also a verb.
We need to walk the talk because how the kids perceive the way we love, they will also duplicate and apply it in their life.
Of course there are challenges especially when the kids are still very young. I remembered when our first son was born, there is no room for couple time.
The kid occupied most of our time, energy and attention until we were unable to pay attention to our partner. When he's 18 months old, we decided to take time off and went to honeymoon.
It was so refreshing that we could pay full attention to our partner again. Our love tanks suddenly full again.
From that moment, we realised that couple time is a need no longer merely a want. So the following year, we took time off to go overseas again leaving our son behind.
God seems pleasing and therefore blessing us with another child after we came back from overseas and again we were grounded for almost two years until we had an opportunity for another family vacation.
Unexpected good news came, I was so unprepared for the first trimester, but by the grace of God, we were able to walk those journey with joy.
When our youngest one was 14 months old, we decided to make a commitment for couple time.
By God's providence, my cousin and my sister were ready to help to mind the children while we were out for few hours.
So every month, we set a time for ourselves either watching movie, dining or exercising together without the kids.
And the good news is our kids are very understandable, they "give" us permission to go for a date.
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