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Communication - Reflection of 10 years Wedding Anniversary

Communication is the blood and water in the relationship. Without proper communication, there always be misunderstanding, conflict, cold war and in severe case end up with separation.
As we are adopting open and honest communication, we also experience challenges in communication either with our partner or the kids.

Both of us are reserved  persons and peace lovers, we prefer to avoid conflict instead of facing it.
Well, it can be good and bad. The good thing is we are not so sensitive over trivial matter but the bad thing is we have tendency to keep it in our heart and it can be a time bomb that can burst anytime.

When we are in conflict or disagreement, we like to talk about it privately and not in front of the kids.
We prefer to settle it at night time after the kids are asleep.


As communication with the kids, we always have open and democratic communication with them. With younger ones, since their understanding are not matured yet, we often pre-empt and direct them. But with the older one, who is now like to argue and debate with us, we always give the reasons why it cannot or can be done that way. On the opposite, as long as he gives us valid reasons, we will accept his ways and decisions.



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