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Sharing Vulnerability (Valentine's Reflection)


2 weeks ago, we had a cold fight. It's not because of big matter but it's all small things built up and exploded.

Hubby had a tendency to keep quiet, as not to make any unnecessary conflict even though he's not happy with me. On the other hand, I didn't know if he's not happy with me. I kept going and just did a usual every day stuffs.

Until one day, there's an incident which I thought was trivial but it hurt him. He didn't tell me, just gave me a cold shoulder. I waited for him to calm down however things never improved.

I couldn't take it anymore and decided to ask him what's wrong then he started to talk his feeling. I just kept quiet listening to him and after he poured out all of his feelings, we argued because we had two different point of views on how to handle the problems.

In the end, we patched up and decided to tell and share our feeling when we don't feel good about each other than waiting until it's built up and exploded.

This Korean movie, 18 again actually reminded him a lot how important the communication between couple is. We cannot assume that our spouse know our thoughts and feeling. We may have different expectations to each other and we may see the things differently.


The most important thing is to communicate, share our vulnerability and accept each other's point of view.





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