Davin Indah Love story

Few weeks ago, after dropping the kids off to school, my husband and I were on the car to send him off to his workplace and suddenly he asked me how's my business ? Well, he never interfered in my business so he didn't know the latest development. I replied that since our products line and variety hasn't increased, the sales were slowing down drastically. Anyway, the stocks were not many as well, so I was not aggressive in marketing them again. He then asked me if there is any possibility to revive it again ? Perhaps we could be the agent for South East Asia for these AR products since our principal was more interested in bigger collaboration with big firms. I told him that I was a bit pessimistic because the products have been in the market for 3 years and there's no new product development from our principal therefore I doubted that it will be a wise plan to be the South East Asia Agent. On a side note, seeing him starting to support and encourage me agai...

Who said that happy couple never have conflicts, disagreements and arguments ? It's unavoidable because we are not saints and we are not married with saints either, however what make the happy couple surpasses all those storms and turbulences are the way they communicate their feeling and respond to one another. In the Gottsman's book, he said that there are four horsemen that indicate whether you make or break your marriage. It's criticism, contempts, defensiveness and stonewalling (cold war) Most of us have those four horsemen deep within us because we are human with weaknesses and limitations. But by God's Grace, we would be able to control or even not using those four horsemen during conflicts with our partner. Just last weekend, I and my husband had argument. It's all started when we were reviewing this year's budget and expenses as well as discussing about next year's budget and our holiday plan. At first, everything was starting v...

I decided to write this from the yesterday incident which I learnt something about parenting 101 from my lifetime mentor and partner, my husband. Yesterday, when I picked my first son up from school, he was so excited to tell me about his exam results. As I have prayed that whatever results he received, I would gratefully accept it because he has done the best during the preparation, and we, as parents have done our best to prepare him so when he told me his results, I praised him. Reaching home, suddenly he told me that he would be going to nearby mall meeting his friends for pokemon games. I was astounded and reacting in impulse, I said to him No, because we already had a plan, his younger brother had music lesson and papa needed to use the car for church ministry. He started crying then he told me that he will call papa. Before he called his dad, I texted my husband to explain the situation and he actually did call his dad. I went inside the room to put the youngest son t...

On the Sunday, 21 October reflection, Archbishop William God talked about True Leadership. Quoted from what He said " True leadership is when a l eader puts the people above himself and sacrifice his life for others. He makes himself available to the people. For this reason, a leader is a selfless servant .  He is always the last to be served because he cannot rest until the rest have had their needs. A leader must suffer with the people and always be on the ground , moving among their people, working with them, living amongst them and sharing their joy and woes. Leaders are called to make personal sacrifices for their people. They choose to suffer for their sake so that the greater n umber of people would suffer less. But through their sacrifices and sufferings, a price for the salvation of the people, they will find peace and contentment. "  This powerful statements can be applied to the family life. Father as a leader of the family could...

After watching St Paul, the Apostle movie. I was struck by His words that "His task is to let the people see the truth and the light, but it's not in his power and control, to convert the people " His statement kept ringing in my head. This Saturday, both of us will do a simple presentation and sharing to share about our marriage in our cell group, I have already done my part to prepare the materials, create marketing tools, and put marketing efforts. I'm nervous and excited at the same time because we are not sure what will be the turn out. Our expectations are to touch some couples to make their marriage better and hope to do outreach to other couples who may be struggling and lost, but again His words remind me that it's not our power to influence them. Reminded by Archbishop's words of wisdom " Responsibility of the Stewardship" We should therefore assume our responsibility according to what is ours. We must make distinction ...

There are days I wake up and I pinch myself You're with me, not someone else And I am scared, yeah, I'm still scared That it's all a dream 'Cause you still look perfect as days go by Even the worst ones, you make me smile I'd stop the world if it gave us time 'Cause when you love someone You open up your heart When you love someone You may grow If you love someone And you're not afraid to lose 'em You'll probably never love someone like I do You'll probably never love someone like I do When you say You love the way I make you feel Everything becomes so real Don't be scared, no, don't be scared 'Cause you're all I need And you still look perfect as days go by Even the worst ones, you make me smile I'd stop the world if it gave us time 'Cause when …

One of the reasons we still fall in love with each other because we are best friend. Quoted from John Gottman's book, the simple truth that happy marriage is based on a deep friendship. A mutual respect for and enjoyment of each other's company. These couples tend to know each other intimately - each other's likes, dislikes, personality, hopes and dreams. They express their fondness in small gestures daily. In our case, we feel comfortable in sharing our feeling, our anger, discomfort, happiness and sadness between us. Like recently, when he encountered problems in his work, even though I couldn't help him physically but by lending my ear to his predicament, it lightened his burden by half and I do my part to pray so that God gave him a wisdom to solve the problem and He did. On the other hand, when I was so excited learning something that I have been passionate about and taking the online course, I couldn't help to share my excitement feeling to hi...

After attending CSF retreat last August, we were inspired by God's purpose in Marriage  which I wrote before, and from the five purposes, we haven't done the last part which is Power for Mission. While we were discerning for doing that, in the same time we were discussing about our marriage, why our relationship is so different from others. Even though we have been married for 10 years, but we still fall in love with each other every day. When I or my husband are apart because of business trip or I'm travelling alone, we are longing for each other. We can't wait to come home to see, hug and kiss each other. When we compare with others' relationship surround us, which most of them said that since the arrival of the children, everything is no longer the same. The passion and enjoyment sometimes have long gone. They may live in the parallel life and what make them together because of the children. When they talk, they always discuss about the children. Whe...