Traditional Marriage

According to Catholic doctrine, marriage is a sacrament, or holy rite of passage that can only be received if both husband and wife are babtized in the Church. In many cases, bishops can grant a special dispensation for interfaith couples, which allows them to be married in a church by a priest. But for faithful Catholics who want their marriage to be fully recognized by the church, the options are either marrying a good Catholic girl or boy or convincing their partner to convert.

If we're marrying someone who isn't Catholic, the Catholic spouse has to be open to having children and commit to raising them Catholic.

Catholic church is the only religion that protects in the indissolubility of marriage.

Pope Francis said, beside being very concerned about the attack on marriage in the Catholic church, we should be coming up with constructive ways to help have happy marriages that are tempted to break up and end in divorce. Everybody wants a happy marriage no matter what religion and belief we are. So we need to give them a better prerogative than marriages that are bound to fail, or may be survive in unhappiness.

The secret of Happy Traditional Marriage :

1. Sexual purity beginning in childhood.

All efforts should made to protect the children from loosing their innocence and to teach them the great value of being a virgin till marriage.

Young men must be taught about the danger of falling into lust, masturbation and pornography.

Young women need to be instructed how to respect their bodies and purity.

2. Boy or girl friends not lovers.

When young men and women are 18 years old and feel the call to marriage, they should have girl or boy friends as friends not lovers.

When the men are mature and able to support a family and women able to take on the great sacrifice of raising the family, they can family date. That is where they go to each others house and socialize in the real family setting, not a superficial relationship away from the family. This is where they find out the true character of the person in pursuing a future marriage with.

3. Future spouse comes from a holy Catholic family ?

How their parents behave, work, speak and pray ? Do they have a happy marriage ?

4. Love God first

Does the future spouse pray, read the Bible and love God ? What are their morals ? Without God in the soul of the future spouse, the marriage will never last

5. Strengths and Weaknesses in future spouse

What are their strength and weaknesses ? Do they addicted to something ? Are they hard workers, mature, disciplined and responsible ? Have they done well in the studies ? Are they honest and transparent ?

6. Life Dreams and Expectation

Do we have the same life dreams, visions and expectation to each other ?

7. Parenting style

How are their belief in raising the children ?

8. The head of family and submit to husband

Does he know that he will be the head of family as Christ the head of the church ? Is he going to abuse his power and strength and hurt the wife ?

Does she know that she will be subjected to husband ?

9. Courtship Days

The courtship time should long enough to know each other and there must never be any physical touching that can lead to sexual sins. All impure activity destroys love and causes guilt that gets carried into the life long marriage.

As much as you may justify sins of impurity before marriage, our conscience does not agree with us. 

God put the conscience in us for truth and it cannot be fooled.

The future spouse may have pleasure, but the price of it is bad feelings of guilt that stay with the marriage for good.

10. Love, admiration and respect

They are very important to have in the courtship. Love is not sexual attraction and it doesn't have to be strong. Love grows over the years when there's admiration and respect for the person we would like to marry. Commitment last all the life long.

11. Children after marriage

Once married, they explore the beauty and sacredness of sex. They understand that sex is to have children. So they never use birth control and accept all the children God wishes to give them. Many children make a marriage work. God never intended a marriage to work with just two people and few children. Each child God sends has a unique part to play in the happiness of the family's future. Birth control destroys marriage too.

12. Prayer and sacramental life

After marriage, prayer is the center or marriage life.

Many people think they will change the spouse once they get married. The only person we can change is our ownself. 

The seeds of divorce were planted away before the couple even got married.