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Couple Empowerment Program session 2 : Marriages are made in heaven but lived on earth


Last Friday, we attended second session of CEP.
And they shared about Companionate marriage which is common these days especially in Singapore when both parents are working.
It's pretty tough because the parents need to juggle time between work and family as well as controlling the emotion.

They also talked about basic human needs which are
SURVIVAL
LOVE AND BELONGING
POWER / RESPECT
FREEDOM
FUN

And the difference between man and woman. The differences are always there and we should see as complimentary.
There are no "Right" or "Wrong" and each has a role to undertake.

In learning to appreciate how our spouse is different, we have to develop a sense of curiosity and admiration for our spouse.
Humour helps to diffuse the tension and to stop our relationship from being too intense.

Learning to change our behaviour and to take on a new perspective of our spouse requires the willingness to bend and to change.
We encounter Christ in our marriage when we bend and change to serve the one we love.

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